What’s the Point in Counselling?
Have you ever wondered what counselling is all about? I mean, why do people pay to talk about their feelings when they can talk to their friends for free?!?
The biggest difference between talking to The Friendly Therapist and talking to a friend is that you will have all of my attention and my focus will be on how current and past events have made you feel.
I may ask questions during your session to help you uncover meanings, I’ll help you to reflect on your life experiences and how they have shaped your present situation and I will try to help you make connections to discover your hidden emotions.
Friends are great support because they want you to stop crying and to tell you everything’s going to be OK. They will tell you to not let things get you down and pick yourself back up.
The relationship you’ll have with me will be different as you begin to trust me and the process of counselling over time.
How do I counsel my clients?
Person-Centred Therapy is the theory I follow to understand how people’s personalities are formed and it lets me work with clients in a way that promotes their personal growth.
I believe that everyone can create positive changes within themselves and that it’s not for me to tell my clients how this should be done.
Focusing on your experience of life is the best way for me to help you understand yourself and develop your self-awareness.
I also believe that my clients should remain in control of their sessions as it is their feelings that I am helping them explore so I always work at their pace. In other words, it’s OK if you don’t want to talk about something.
The overall goal is to self-actualise and become the best person that you can be. This doesn’t mean that you’ll be winning Nobel prizes and bringing peace to all of mankind (although it would be great if you could!), but it does mean you’ll reach your full potential as an individual and I honestly feel that we are all capable of doing this.